Yet there sits Thea, my 3 year old, who makes friends at the drop of a hat. Whose whole personally exudes friendliness and “play with me.” Who is not afraid to approach or include, who is not afraid to reach out. I wish I could be more like her because in the end as Ms. Night writes; we all need people.
I wonder which of my students go home lonely? Which of my students may seem like they have plenty of people but then no one comes over to play? No one reaches out or worries about when their seat is empty. I wonder if they hide it like I do, whether they follow the rules of friendships and pretend they feel they belong, hoping that someday it will come true. How can we integrate them, whether they are new or old students, into friendships? How can we help them feel like they belong, because in the end, community is what can make or break school.
I am not sure I am the one with the answers here, after all, I am still trying to fit in myself.