Reading Identity

It’s Not That They Can’t Read… – looking at imposter syndrome and reading identity

How many times have we heard a child say, “I’m not good at reading”?
Or watched one put a book back on the shelf, saying, “This is too hard for me,” even though we suspected that they could read it — if only they would give it a shot?

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what stops kids from fully stepping into their reader identity. About the stumbling blocks that are, indeed, man-made. It’s not always decoding or fluency or stamina. Sometimes, it’s internal.

After reading Anne-Laure Le Cunff’s powerful piece on intellectual self-doubt, I couldn’t stop seeing the connections. The very patterns she outlines in adults show up, in different ways, in our students’ reading lives. Because while every reader is on unique path of discovery and reading exploration, there are similarities in how they interact with books when they don’t feel like a reader, and those we can look more closely at.

We know that the act of reading is wrapped in emotions. That self-worth and social hierarchy placement can be closely linked to your perceived skills as a reader. That being a reader or not being a reader can be anchored in childhood as an adult identity-marker. And so it makes sense that our students want to shield themselves from perceived hardship or failure – don’t we all? And so we often see a form of “reading resistance,” which to some may come across as laziness or avoidance. But what if instead we viewed as a form of imposter syndrome? Then we can enter the conversation in a different way, while bringing the readers in our care along.

Here’s how these patterns might show up in our classrooms — and what we can do to help.

Support: Model messy reading. Think aloud when you mess up. Celebrate effort over perfection. Give them low-stakes spaces to take risks — silly poems, decoding games, or buddy reading with younger peers where they feel competent.

The Reading Perfectionist

Potential underlying imposter syndrome: “If I don’t get every word right, I’m a bad reader.”

🧠 Manifests as:

  • Whispering or mouthing words when reading aloud, avoiding risk of error.
  • Fixating on misread words or “getting stuck” and refusing to continue.
  • Asking repeatedly, “Is this right?” before turning the page or writing about a book.
  • Getting upset during assessments even with high accuracy.

Support: Model messy reading. Think aloud when you mess up. Celebrate effort over perfection. Give them low-stakes spaces to take risks — silly poems, decoding games, or buddy reading with younger peers where they feel competent.

💡 Further ideas:

  • “Mistake of the Day” Club: Make small decoding or comprehension missteps a shared, safe laugh — create a space where every reader can submit one and reflect.
  • Sticky Notes of Bravery: Let kids mark pages with a note like “I wasn’t sure, but I tried.” Celebrate risk-taking during sharing.
  • Co-created anchor charts: “What Good Readers Do When They’re Stuck” — keep it visual and student-owned.

The Natural Genius Reader

Potential underlying imposter syndrome: “If this book is hard, it means I’m not a good reader after all.”

🌟 Manifests as:

  • Makes vague claims like “This book is boring” or “I already know what’s going to happen.”
  • Rapid early reading growth, followed by a plateau and sudden disengagement.
  • Avoids challenging books after one or a few “failures” (can’t pronounce, understand, or keep up).
  • Prefers familiar series or picture books they can master easily.

Support: Teach struggle as normal. Share your own stories of books that stumped you. Use “just right struggle” texts and help them see confusion as part of deep reading. Introduce the idea that strong readers ask questions — and don’t always know the answers.

💡 Further ideas:

  • “Struggle Stars” wall: Post quotes from students about books that challenged them. Normalize confusion as part of growth.
  • Teach the “Reader’s Curve”: A simple visual model showing early success → plateau → productive struggle → breakthrough.
  • Reading Journals with “Stuck Points”: Instead of summaries, have them record where they don’t understand — and celebrate re-reading or asking for help.

The Solo Reader

Potential underlying imposter syndrome: “If I ask for help, it proves I can’t read.”

🚪 Manifests as:

  • May quietly resist support or conferencing.
  • Hides books behind desks or reads in isolation.
  • Avoids joining book clubs, doesn’t volunteer to partner read.
  • Says “I’m fine” or “I like reading alone” but rarely talks about books.

Support: Normalize collaboration. Use pair shares, peer book recommendations, or “reading buddies” where asking questions is expected. Let them be the helper sometimes too — it builds trust. Shift the narrative: strong readers talk about books together.

💡 Further Ideas:

  • Invisible Book Clubs: Let kids respond to the same book on post-its or Flip videos without needing to talk face-to-face at first.
  • “Ask Me Later” buttons: Offer students a nonverbal way to defer help — gives autonomy without removing support.
  • “One Book, Two Readers” challenge: Quiet students read the same book as a peer — then choose their own way to share (drawing, writing, or private discussion).

The Super Reader

Potential underlying imposter syndrome: “I have to read more than everyone else to prove I’m a real reader.”

🏁 Manifests as:

  • May use reading to seek validation, not joy.
  • Logs 30+ books per month, but gives vague or superficial summaries.
  • Gets anxious when “behind” on reading goals.
  • Chooses quantity over quality: “easy wins.”

Support: Slow them down. Invite reflection. Use journals, book talks, or drawing to process books in new ways. Help them find balance by honoring books that move them — not just books they finish.

💡 Further Ideas:

  • “Read Slow” Challenges: Celebrate books that take a week or more to finish. Offer awards for “most thoughtful pause,” “best reread moment,” etc.
  • “This Book Changed Me” board: Help them reflect on impact, not volume.
  • Weekly Deep Dive: Once a week, they must pick just one book to discuss in detail — what moved them, surprised them, challenged them.

The Expert Reader

Potential underlying imposter syndrome: “I need to understand everything before I can say I read it.”

📘 Manifests as:

  • May demand “correct” interpretations from teachers.
    Freezes up during book discussions, afraid of being wrong.
  • Asks few questions, fearing they’ll reveal gaps in knowledge.
  • Abandons texts quickly if meaning isn’t immediate.

Support: Emphasize curiosity over correctness. Use “I wonder…” prompts. Let them see you grappling with questions too. Build habits of metacognition — maybe through post-its, wondering journals, or group discussions where questions are more valued than answers.

💡 Further Ideas:

  • “Wonder Logs”: Replace standard comprehension questions with “I wonder,” “I noticed,” “I’m confused by…” logs.
  • “One Word Summaries”: Ask students to capture a whole chapter or character using one word — forces synthesis, not certainty.
  • Un-Googleable Questions Wall: Collect and explore deep, complex questions that have no single right answer.

Bonus Tip: Support All 5 with Metacognition Mini-lessons

Build in weekly reflection that honors emotional and identity aspects of reading, not just skills:

  • “What kind of reader were you this week?”
  • “What made you feel confident — or not?”
  • “What book surprised you?”
  • “What was hard… and what did you do about it?”

So where do we go from here?

We remind ourselves and our kids: doubt is normal. Growth is messy. And identity — especially a reader identity — isn’t something we give them. It’s something they build, slowly, with support, belonging, and choice.

We can’t eliminate their reading struggles, but we can reframe them. We can help them see effort not as evidence they’re failing — but as proof they’re learning.

Like Anne-Laure writes, the most successful people (and readers!) aren’t those who never doubt themselves — but those who learn to keep going with the doubt.

Reading, Reading Identity

Let Students Speak Books: Simple Ideas for a Shared Reading Community

I have been thinking, writing, speaking about reading identity and building joyful reading opportunities in school for more than a decade. Ideas still come, but at times, they slow down. After all, there are mnay tried and true ideas that still work, even as they get re-shared throughout the years. We finetune, we adapt, we consider, we reflect, and we put things into practice to see if this little tweak, this little idea is THE idea for helping a child build their reading culture.

We all know so many of the components of a reading environment that works a for a lot of kids. Independent reading time, book choice (As my niece said today, “I only like to read books I decide myself”), embracing diverse preferences not just in reading material but also in how we read, who we read with and how we work with reading. We allow and encourage book abandonment, and we spend precious minutes recommending books to speak books with our students. We lead the way as a committed adult reader who wants to showcase all the paths into reading and why it matters.

Bit it doesn’t always work. Even this, is sometimes not enough. And I get asked a lot; then what. But how can we take it further? Because an adult-centered reading community is an artificial one at length for students. It has an expiration date that lines up with when the adult says goodbye.

This is why some of our time has to be focused on that shift in who is at the center of the reading culture. How can we shift from being the sole source  of reading knowledge to cultivating a shared knowledge base? How do we establish and grow a  casual reading community that goes beyond just the teacher-student  interactions and start to draw in each other as fellow readers?

Like I said, I  have shared many ideas throughout the years – in my book, Passionate  Readers, this community, and on social media. But here are a  few more to get those readers talking, sharing, and seeing each other  as the valuable resources that they are.

I have linked to the resources I have created as well. 

Choose my Book for Me

Have each child fill in a reading desire sheet: length, genre, format, favorite previous reads etc – see sheet for questions and to make your own.

Then have students identify four people they would like to find a book for – 2 friends and 2 not-yet-friends. Assign two students to each child, ensuring everyone has two individuals to find a book for.

Share the reading desire sheet and let them loose, pulling books they think these people may like.

Pile them up and have them add them to their to-be-read list.

Then You Might Like

Have students fill out their favorite themes of books on a quick tally sheet. 

Then group 3-4 kids into small groups putting them in charge of their chosen theme.

Each group creates an “If you like this book, then you might also like these books…” poster.

Hang and share in your classroom.

Adult Favorites

What do the adults in your schools and community love to read and what would they recommend to someone in your classroom?

Have adults come in or share a recorded brief (2 minutes or less) book talk with students offering their favorite reads for this age group.

Play one every day or create a library where students can access at their leisure.

For ideas for adults with guidelines, go here

Fill a Box

Grab some shoe boxes or other smaller boxes and group 4-5 students together.

Let them loose in your book stacks  – collaborate with your librarian if you don’t have a classroom library – and as a group, have them fill each box with recommendations of books they have loved.

Swap boxes with other groups, give a short rundown of titles selected if you want, and have kids write down book recommendations on their to-be-read lists.

1 Minute Book Talk

At the end of independent reading once a week, have students stop and do a 1 minute or less book talk to their table group (or group them together).

Have them share what they are reading, why they chose it, and one other question from this list or ones they make up themselves.

  • Share the most shocking or surprising moment you’ve encountered in your book so far.
  • What keeps you hooked and motivated to continue reading this book?
  • On a scale of 1 to 5, how would you rank this book in terms of enjoyment?
  • Who do you think would enjoy reading this book? 
  • If you could ask the author one question about the book, what would it be?
  • Share a favorite quote or passage from the book that resonated with you.
  • Has this book made you see something in a different way? How has it changed your perspective?
  • Make a TikTok dance or gesture that represents the overall mood or theme of the book.
  • Imagine if this book were turned into a movie. Who would you cast as the main characters?
  • Share your favorite character from the book and explain why they’re memorable to you.
  • If you could recommend this book to anyone (real or fictional), who would it be and why?
  • Share an interesting fact or trivia related to the author or the book’s setting.
  • What emotions has this book made you feel?
  • Show us your reading spot or favorite place to dive into this book.
  • If you could live in the world of this book for a day, what would you do or explore?
  • Share a book-related tip or hack that has enhanced your reading experience.
  • In three words, describe the overall vibe or atmosphere of the book.

Think Like a Marketer

Have students find a book they would like to advertise. Can be one they have read or not.

The goal is now to create an advertising campaign for this to entice as many readers as possible. What should the tagline be? How should the book be photographed?  Think like a marketer – how would the book be placed, what props would be present, what would the angle be?

Have students create posters using Canva with their images and taglines and share them around the school as a way to entice further readers. You can even run a campaign and see how many kids end up borrowing the book.

Giving students an opportunity to be the ones that speak books more than the adults is a way to shift ownership. It becomes commonplace when we give it value, time, and space to be developed.

So what are ideas that you like to use? How have you shifted the ownership of the discovery of books into the hands of your students?