I get asked for a lot of book recommendations, I think it comes with the territory when you share the love of books. And while I love pairing books with potential readers, I have also noticed a pattern that causes me to pause, that should cause all of us to pause.
I get asked for a lot of books featuring male lead characters for male readers.
When I ask why the need for a male lead, I am often told that “they” just don’t think a boy will read a “girl book.” That a boy will not like a book about feelings. That a boy only wants books that have action. That have other boys in it. That feature characters that look just like them or at the very least think like them.
As if every single boy thinks alike.
When written like this it is easy to see the problem; when we assume that there is such a thing as books for girls and books for boys, we are continuing a tired and sexist narrative that has only furthered the power inequity that already exists within our society. We are creating a new generation of mansplaining, of groupthink, of toxic masculinity. Of girls only liking one thing, and boys liking another. Of men and women being from different planets. Of readers being shaped more by their assigned gender than their actual interests.
We are furthering the stereotype that boys don’t like to read about girls because they see little value in what girls do.
We are furthering the stereotype that boys don’t like to read about feelings because they are somehow above all of that.
We are furthering the stereotype of what it means to be a boy which translates into what it means to be a man and not seeing the incredible harm in that.
Because what about the boys that love a good tearjerker? What about the boys that don’t like sports? What about the boys that love to experience the emotional development of a character? What about the boys that love a great female lead character? What about the girls who don’t fit into the opposite boxes? Do they not deserve to have books suggested to them, no matter the gender of the protagonist?
And I think of my own children, my three girls and one boy, whose reading interests are as varied as their personalities. Sure there are Minecraft books being read by Oskar, but not until Thea reads them first. Sure there are unicorn books with pink sparkly covers being read by Augustine but not until Oskar sees if the unicorn gets rescued first. I would hate for anyone to assume that they knew who they were as readers based only on their gender.
So when we claim that a read-aloud featuring a female protagonist will likely not catch the attention of our boy readers, we have whittled the male reading identity down to practically nothing. Males – good. Sports – good. Action – good. We have diminished what it means to be a reader who develops with the books they read. We have diminished what it means to identify as male. We have diminished their chance to learn from a perspective that may at first seem foreign but in the end may just be more similar than they ever thought. We have effectively boxed our boys in only to then wonder why they may act a certain way.
How often does this thinking then translate into the very books we recommend to the boys we teach? To the girls? How often do our assumptions about their needs as a reader surpass what they actually need? How often does this translate into the read alouds we choose? The texts we bless by spending our time on them as a community?
And I realize that I don’t get asked the opposite very often. That often when I am asked for a recommendation for a female reader, the gender of the protagonist is hardly ever brought up. That instead the most common descriptor is a strong story development, a story that will hold their attention. Why do our boys not deserve the same?
So I am wondering if we for once and for all, can we all agree that there is no such thing as a girl or a boy book? That kids need to be exposed to characters that inspire them, no matter their gender. That kids need to be exposed to characters that will expand their worldviews and invite them into new worlds that they knew little of before, no matter their gender. That kids need to be exposed to great books, without us adults thinking that they will only read a certain type of book based on what we see in front of us.
We must give them a chance to experience more than what they are. Books allow us to do just that, but not if they never read them. Not if we never recommend them. That’s on us, which means we can change it, so let’s do that starting now.
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129 thoughts on “On Boy Books and Girl Books”
Totally agree! sharing my experience…
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Tellement inspirant, tellement important !!!
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I think people sometimes don’t even realize that the kinds of books they’re putting in front of young girls and boys may be contributing to furthering these stereotypes. Which is why it’s so important to pay attention to how the stories in these books may affect their point of view on life as they mature and grow. Love that you are bringing this up because it’s something we should all consider!
Very well thought out piece. It makes me question a lot. I do understand that marketing has a lot to answer for as it continues to perpetuate this archaic narrative. Pink coloured books for girls, darker colours for boys. People need to be how they are, not what society thinks they should be.
Yes! I totally agree. I recently wrote a post about boy/girl stereotypes and have never really considered books-possibly because my boys aren’t reading yet. I love books and I want my boys to love books, any books!
I have faced this a lot in the classroom. I teach English and 9/10 when picking articles/anything to read someone brings up “what about the boys.” Boys won’t be interested unless it nonfiction and related to science or sports. What a sad assumption. Yes, some boys enjoy reading nonfiction sports stories but should not be limited to it.
I had the honor of seeing you last year at a training in middle Tn, the Friday and Saturday before state testing. I was absolutely dreading using up the whole weekend for “training”, but I was so wrong! You are so inspiring, and I love everything you believe in and stand for. Thank you for being the voice of our children- all of them, not just some. They need you!
Yes that is so true. Children should be guided and taught to do things that is required of them, especially the boys. Having the mindset that some books or even chores are made specifically for a particular gender is a wrong assertion. The best thing to do is to educate them on doing things they love that will help them survive, reading books that will add to their knowledge whether fiction, nonfiction, emotional, pink or green cover.
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Guest Blog Post: On Boy Books and Girl Books by Pernille Ripp
Books allow me to transcend my own experience of the world. In reading, I can assume the skin of people, places, times, and events that I’ll never otherwise inhabit. They make me feel more part of the world and more human.
How has reading shaped you? Blogger/teacher/parent Pernille Ripp why she believes children should be exposed to all kinds of books…
love this so much I just reblogged it to my site – hope you like how it looks there & it brings you lots of new readers 🙂
hi there – just glancing at the reblog of this on my site & noticed there’s a prob with loading the top image…